“The challenge of leadership is to be strong but not rude; be kind, but not weak; be bold, but not a bully; be humble, but not timid; be proud, but not arrogant; have humor, but without folly” JimRohn
Anytime I'm introduced into a new leadership situation, whether it be with a new team or clients, I try to put myself in the other person's shoes,
A long time ago, I learned an invaluable list of questions that people will intuitively ask about you when you are put in a position to lead.
1. Can you help me? This is them questioning competence. Am I capable of improving or helping improve something in their life?
2. Do you care for me? This is questioning compassion. Literally, do you give a damn about me or are you just manipulating me to better your situation?
3. Can I trust you? This is a character question. Poor character generally leads to bad motives. And there is nothing worse than a leader with bad motives.
Great leaders make it their mission to get people to answer an absolute yes to all of these questions.
They do this by taking the initiative to get to know people first. They show them they care for them before asking them to follow.
I've witnessed the opposite philosophy plenty of times. And it's always a train wreck waiting to happen. These types of leaders become the captain of their own A-hole train. But eventually everyone gets off the train and has no interest in riding with them.
Ken Blanchard said, "Great leaders are people who others follow because they respect them and like them, not because they have power."
Real leaders don't care about positions. They care about getting results, making you a part of those results, and sharing that success with you.