Daily Dose of Coach #410: The Perfectionist

"Perfectionism is not the same thing as trying to be our best. Perfectionism is not about healthy achievement and growth; it's a shield ." Brene Brown

I used to think it was cool to call myself a perfectionist until I realized that being a self-proclaimed perfectionist doesn't get you anywhere or make you sound cool at all.

Now it just kind of makes me cringe when I hear the words, "I'm a perfectionist." Those words are usually followed with an excuse why something isn't getting accomplished. And that's all it is, an excuse.

There have been too many times when I haven't launched or didn't even start something because I was too busy being a "perfectionist. " This is so dumb.

The definition of a perfectionist is: "refusal to accept any standard short of perfection."

This could be confused with having an attitude of excellence. But excellence and perfectionism are entirely different. A better definition for perfectionism would be "refusal to start something, because of the delusional idea that I am or can get anything perfect."

In other words, perfectionism is procrastination. When you think you have to have everything perfect before you begin, it's just fear talking you out of it.

There is a distinct difference between an attitude of excellence and perfectionism. You build excellence in humility, while perfectionism is built in arrogance.

Becoming excellent takes volumes of effort, lots of failures, and persistence. In other words, you have to start, stop, regroup, and start over many times.

Perfectionism is an arrogance that you can get things perfect, and everything will be perfect that you do. Lack of persistence is disguised by claiming all must be perfect.

Think about this the next time you call yourself a perfectionist. Just get started. Make mistakes. Learn from those mistakes and continue to take action.