"The struggle ends when gratitude begins." Neale Donald Walsh
If you're like me you hate to lose. It's difficult to understand how one finds the silver lining in getting your butt kicked, especially if it happens over and over again. As a father, it's interesting to watch how my young children deal with loss. Once the game is over, instead of it ruining the rest of their night, they are chasing the first butterfly they see, or running across the field with a big smile on their face and open arms to hug their little brother. When I want to analyze the game, they just want to move on to the next thing. Their memory is so short. How I envy this mindset.
I read funny blurb on the advantages of a losing team: 1) There is everything to hope for and nothing to fear. 2) Defeats do not disturb one's sleep. 3) An occasional victory is a surprise and a delight. 4) There is no danger of any team passing you. 5) You are not asked 50 times a day, " What was the score?" ; people take it for granted that you lost.
Loss and failure happen. Be grateful for the experience, learn your lesson, chase a butterfly for a while, give someone a hug and move on.