Between Saying and Doing
Last night I was in a conversation with a couple of member at my gym. One of them happened to be a woman I've never met before. We were speaking on weight loss and the challenges it presents. I shared with them how was able to lose 9 pounds last month. I explained it was a combination of two things. I tracked what I ate (and ate better much because of it), and added running intervals into my program. I told her I worked out 5 days per week and pushed myself pretty hard through those workouts.
Her response, "It must be nice to be a guy. I'd give anything to be able to lose weight like you guys do."
I responded by saying, "No, it's not about being guy, it's about being focused on what you want to achieve, and not letting anything get in your way of doing it. I've seen woman do it too."
She said in a sarcastic tone, "Oh yea, focus. I'm sure. That's what all you trainers say."
At this point, I realized she was fine with where she was and moved on. But it reminded me of the story below:
“One time a fine pianist performed at a party. After she was done, a woman said to the virtuoso, ‘I’d give anything to play as you do.’ As she sipped her coffee in slow motion she took a brief pause and said, ‘Oh no you wouldn’t.’
Soon a great hush filled the room as they were baffled in astonishment and massive confusion. She continued, ‘You’d give anything to play as I do except time. You wouldn’t sit and practice hour after hour, day after day, year after year.’
Then she flashed a warm smile and said, ‘please understand I’m not criticizing, I’m just telling you that when you say you’d give ANYTHING to play as I do, you really don’t mean it…you really don’t mean it at all.’"
Everything comes at a price. The greater to goal, the greater the sacrifices you have to make. It's never about things like age, gender, or circumstances. It's simply, how bad do you want it and what are you willing to give up to get there.