“Nothing so conclusively proves a man’s ability to lead others as what he does from day to day to lead himself.” Thomas J. Watson, Former CEO IBM
If you're in a leadership position, it's always good to be able to check yourself with those you are leading.
This goes for your personal and professional life.
There are three questions I've used in the past to ask those closest to me to gain feedback on my leadership.
What should I stop doing?
What should I keep doing?
What should I start doing?
These are difficult questions to ask. They are also difficult questions to answer if those you are requesting give honest feedback. This is one reason you only ask those in your inner circle , those people closest to you in your family or organization.
Leadership is about other people. But, sometimes we get caught up in our own agenda's. I've found this group of questions to help me improve my leadership in the past. Ask your husband or wife, your children, other members of your leadership team at work, your teammates, or even your team captains if you are a coach.
When you receive the feedback make sure you take it for what it's worth. I would ask the person to expand on their answers or ask how they would approach certain situations.
The goal here is to gauge where you are with those you lead, improve relationships with your inner circle, become a better leader and ultimately improve how your leadership is driving results.
As the great coach John Wooden said, "Whatever coaching and leadership skills I possess were learned through listening, observation, study, and then trial and error along the way."