As a coach and someone whose around sports and fitness, I live in a world of people comparing, measuring, and analyzing. And in my position, I'm apart of that process.
I'm helping people measure themselves against standards, benchmarks and what others in their similar situations are achieving. This criterion can be valuable. It gives us a place to go, a vision to see, something to endeavor.
However, each of us is set up differently. Some people were set up to be the standard setters in certain things; some were not. There are anomalies, but those are few and far between.
Be that as it may, the comparison game is still alive and well. Many times when we think we're an apple compared to an apple, we may be more of a tomato. As much as we want to be that apple, the tomato was our draw. In the gym, my friend Don Z likes to remind me, "Some of us were just made to do certain things."
The problem arises when we try to use our shortcomings as excuses and thus turn into limiting beliefs. I've found that belief if much stronger than reality. Everything we accomplish, no matter our circumstances, no matter how many times we've failed, starts with rock-solid belief.
In 1956, Dr. King did a sermon on leading hopeful lives. He encouraged the congregation to pray, " Lord, help me accept my tools. However dull they are, help me to accept them. And then Lord, after I have accepted my tools, then help me to set out and do what I can do with my tools."
The tools you were given are everything you need to succeed. Your path will undoubtedly be different than others. Don't bend to discouragement and limiting beliefs. Accept, develop and embrace these tools. The apple, the tomato, the disadvantaged, the oppressed can all change the world.