Daily Dose of Coach #259: Happy in Struggle

Comfort and security is our favorite thing to seek. It's human nature to try and find the path of least resistance.

Ultramarathoner Dean Karnazes said, "We think that if we had every comfort available to us, we'd be happy. We equate comfort for happiness, and now that we're so comfortable we're miserable. There's no struggle in our lives. No sense of adventure."

This is the paradox of comfort. Once we think we have achieved some level of it, we may be happy for a while, but then we become bored, disengaged, and even arrogant.

The whole comfort thing is entirely overrated. We feel most alive when we are striving. Think about the last time you had to work extremely hard for a goal.

I am sure that you dealt with levels of fear, insecurity, and doubt. All those feelings are part of the process. These are all excellent indicators your goal is worth achieving. To put it in weight training terms, strength coach Cal Deitz says, "If the weight on the bar doesn't scare you, you're not going heavy enough."

Small goals bring small amounts of fear. They play into the path of least resistance mentality. Make a big goal this week. Recognize the fear and excitement as being on the right track. Learn that real happiness is in the struggle. It's the only way to push beyond where you are today.